As I reflect on what I am thankful for this year, I really am thankful for the gifts from others that have helped me to be successful in all my endeavors. So I thought I’d write a little mini-series sharing some insight into these gifts over the Thanksgiving weekend.
Several years ago one of my dear friends and co-workers, Jodie, helped me to realize that one of the great gifts that I received from my family is that of Confidence. Confidence to be who I am. Confidence that my family and friends will be there to support me in all that I do. Confidence that I can be successful at whatever I put my mind to and work hard for.
At first I dismissed what she was saying, but now several years later, I realize that this is a very special gift. As I have come to coach and mentor people, I now see that one of the largest challenges that many people have to overcome is lack of confidence. Lack of confidence in themselves, lack of confidence in their ability to contribute meaningfully, and also lack of confidence that they could come back from a failure. This last one, fear of failure, is often the hardest to overcome because it stops so many people from even starting to do something.
Much of my success comes from simply “daring to begin”. Not blindly leaping into the unknown, but really assessing a situation, gathering information to make an informed decision, and then taking the risk to begin following through on my decision. This doesn’t mean that I’m always successful in all that I do. I make mistakes and wrong decisions too. But the important thing is that I am able to learn from these experiences and incorporate them into my knowledge to not make the same mistakes again. And if it happens to be a hole bigger than I can get myself out of, I am confident that my family and friends will be there to help me out and get me back on my feet.
So that is the great gift of Confidence that I am very thankful for.